Jennifer, the adopted Korean woman, is a very atypical “representative” of Korean adopted females. The problems she brings up are problems of her own. Pema Chodron says, “Dive all blames into one”. I believe that her mother died due to all the tumultuous issues Jennifer kept bombarding her with. I believe her mother loved her unconditionally, a gift that Jennifer could not see and accept.

Jennifer clearly has behavioral issues. My question is, what is she to do about it NOW? Everything in the past is past. I didn’t have a perfect life growing up either, so what!! So it is important for an adoptee to ask her or himself, what can I do about it now?? How can I help myself, so in turn I can help others?

I am lucky to have parents, especially a father, who has helped me along my spiritual path. I think, without this, I would be in shambles. It doesn’t matter what situation I am in, whether I am adopted or not adopted – but rather, who am I and what am I? How can I help you?

I don’t think that there is any ONE prescription of how to raise an adopted child. Although I think that this is an important film to be had, I don’t think that adoptees necessarily have to follow one way of living an adopted life. I know adoptees who do not think that they have to live their lives like other adoptees who associate with other adoptees, or even try to find heir birth parents – and they are very well adjusted persons who are successful with their careers and families.

If one has a strong true nature, that person will follow his or her path. It doesn’t matter who you are or where you came from. Everyone has it, and everyone can take control of their own lives, correctly.