Adoption Stories from Adopted the Movie - A Feature Film by Barb Lee

August 22, 2007

Daddy and I

Filed under: Adoptees,Adoption,Chinese Adoption — Catherine @ 4:05 pm

Both Harlow’s Monkey and Racialicious have recently posted about Daddy and I, a photo exhibit by O. Zhang. In it, adopted Chinese girls pose with their white adoptive fathers. The series has generated much publicity, mostly centered around the uncomfortable feeling many have gotten looking at the photos. Some of the photos depict the young girls, often in traditional Chinese dress, in vaguely inappropriate positions with their fathers.



Why do these pictures make us so uneasy? If it were white adopted children with their white daughters, would we feel so uncomfortable? Or are these fathers in inappropriate positions with their daughters, regardless of race?

Furthermore, what is the artist’s role in all of this? In his director’s statement, Zhang poses the question "as the girls grow up, will they remain innocent adoptees under the tutelage of their Western patriarchs?" Did he position the fathers and daughters in deliberate situations to symbolize this question?

If art is meant to generate discussion, then this exhibit surely has accomplished its goal.

July 31, 2007

The End of a Journey

Filed under: Adoption,Chinese Adoption,Film News — Catherine @ 11:13 am

For the past year, we have followed John and Jacqui on their journey to adopt a daughter from China. We watched as they waited for their referral, traveled to China, and eventually brought home little Roma. A few weeks ago, we wrapped up shooting their part of the story. Below, Jacqui discusses saying goodbye to the producers and the film crew in her blog.

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

An end of an era within our journey to Roma

This past weekend was the tearful goodbyes to the producers and the film crew that have been following us on our journey to Roma. We responded to a request they posted on the FCC newsletter at about this time last year from:

They were looking for a couple that was close to picking up their child from China. Well, last year we really thought we were within months of getting our referral. This journey lasted longer than anyone anticipated. They are done filming us and plan to release the film this fall.

It has been a blessing that they have been involved in our journey. During the interviews, they asked some very difficult questions which then got us learning more on the myriad issues surrounding international and interracial adoption.

I have to thank you, Barb and Nancy, for opening my eyes and I hope to be a better mom because of your passion for this documentary.

If anyone would like to see more on the documentary, go on and visit their blog over at:




May 16, 2007

Suicide Second-Leading Cause of Death Among Asian American Women 15-24

CNN reported today on a study finding that Asian-American women ages 15-24 have the highest suicide rate of women in any race or ethnic group in the same age group and that suicide is the second-leading cause of death for Asian-American women in that age range.

Eliza Noh, an assistant professor of Asian-American studies at California State University at Fullerton who worked on the study (and whose sister committed suicide) spoke with CNN about family pressure and stereotypes of Asians that can lead to increased rates of depression.

"Depression starts even younger than age 15. Noh says one study has shown that as young as the fifth grade, Asian-American girls have the highest rate of depression so severe they’ve contemplated suicide.

As Noh and others have searched for the reasons, a complex answer has emerged.

First and foremost, they say "model minority" pressure — the pressure some Asian-American families put on children to be high achievers at school and professionally — helps explain the problem … But Noh says pressure from within the family doesn’t completely explain the shocking suicide statistics for young women like her sister.

She says American culture has adopted the myth that Asians are smarter and harder-working than other minorities.

‘It’s become a U.S.-based ideology, popular from the 1960s onward, that Asian-Americans are smarter, and should be doing well whether at school or work.’

Noh added that simply being a minority can also lead to depression."

April 19, 2007

Watch as John and Jacqui Receive Their Referral

Filed under: Adoption,Chinese Adoption,Film Clips — Tags: , , , — Catherine @ 3:10 pm

For an adoptive parent, receiving your referral is a life changing moment. This is the phone call where you find out the name, age, sex, and date of birth of your child, in effect transforming you from a parent-to-be to a parent. We were lucky enough to be with John and Jacqui when they received the phone call that would change their lives. Click on the video below to watch as John and Jacqui officially become parents to Min Xin Pei, a little girl from China.

December 17, 2006

Adopted Children and Racism

Filed under: Chinese Adoption,Film Clips,For Parents,Race and Identity,Videos — Catherine @ 1:35 pm

Dr. Joseph Crumbley, a therapist specializing in adoptive families, discusses racism in adopted children from China.

I was invited by an organization titled "Families with Children from China." They asked me to meet with their children and to see if they were dealing with issues of race. And I met with the children, and I guess they were maybe five or six years old up to ten or eleven. And there may have been about ten children in the group. And I asked them if they knew what prejudice was, and they said "no." I asked them if they knew what racism was and they said "no," so I defined it for them. I defined prejudice as someone having attitudes and ideas about you because of what they heard, not because of them knowing you. And they said, "O.K., all right, we understand that." I asked them if they knew what racism was, and they said "no," and I defined racism to them as meaning when someone feels as though they’re better than you and mistreats you simply because you look different from them. So they got the definition. And then I asked them how many of you have experienced prejudice or discrimination or racism. All the hands went up. So I then went around the group and I asked them what kind of experiences did you have? And they said:

"Well, somebdoy called me a pan face. Somebody called me a round face. Somebody called me a chink. Somebody asked me if I had yellow fever. Somebody asked me where my glasses were, because they figured because of my eyes I couldn’t be able to see. Somebody even said to me that I couldn’t play basketball because the only thing I’m good at is being smart."

So the children were going around with all their different experiences and what people were saying to them. And one of the children in the group was about five years old, and I didn’t really think she could share anything. I asked her, "what was your experience? Did somebody mistreat you because of your race?"No." Well, I asked if somebody said something bad about you because of your race. "No." Well, what did they do and this is what she did, <makes motion.> And the other kids in the group started laughing and saying, "ohh, slanty eyes!" So they kind of knew what was going on, and she said, "but I’ve got an answer for that." And I said, "What are you going to do?"I’m going to have an operation." I said, "What kind of operation?" "Well, I’m going to have my eyelids cut back so that they’ll be round."